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life...not interrupted

Discussion in 'Freedom from Hell ~ Staying Clean~' started by Sluggo, Oct 15, 2008.

  1. Sluggo

    Sluggo Well-Known Member

    Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things.

    Robert Brault

    (now that i'm a parent...this seems even more invaluable)
  2. gettingbetter

    gettingbetter Well-Known Member

    Tell Jack:

    “Imagination is more important than knowledge. For knowledge is limited to all we now know and understand, while imagination embraces the entire world, and all there ever will be to know and understand.”

    (this is the quote I've been working with in my classes)
  3. Sluggo

    Sluggo Well-Known Member

    thanks. you get it.
  4. Sluggo

    Sluggo Well-Known Member

    The quality of your action depends on the quality of your being. Suppose you’re eager to offer happiness, to make someone happy. That’s a good thing to do. But if you’re not happy, then you can’t do that. In order to make another person happy, you have to be happy yourself. So there’s a link between doing and being. If you don’t succeed in being, you can’t succeed in doing. If you don’t feel that you’re on the right path, happiness isn’t possible. This is true for everyone; if you don’t know where you’re going, you suffer. It’s very important to realize your path and see your true way.

    - Thich Nhat Hanh
  5. Sluggo

    Sluggo Well-Known Member

    Learn to get in touch with silence within yourself, And know that everything in this life has purpose. There are no mistakes, No coincidences, All events are blessings given to us to learn from.

    Elizabeth Kubler-Ross
  6. Sluggo

    Sluggo Well-Known Member

    Bringing an End to Judgment

    When you bring an end to judgment, you bring an end to an entire way of living. This is no small thing. This is a life-changing shift in attitude and behavior. This is a miracle.

    But how does one perform this miracle? That is the question to which everyone wants an answer. Please, then, pay very close attention to what I am going to tell you now: The way to move out of judgment is to move into gratitude.

    Neale Donald Walsch
  7. Sluggo

    Sluggo Well-Known Member

    Setting Limits

    While Buddhist literature doesn’t use the word boundaries, it addresses this issue. For example, Buddhism praises the value of generosity but warns that you shouldn’t give something away if you’re likely to be upset later and regret giving it away. Similarly, although it’s good to help others, we shouldn’t agree to do something for another person if it will likely lead us to feel exhausted, resentful, and angry at the other person. Each of us has to judge our own capacities and set our boundaries accordingly.

    - Lorne Ladner

    for me....very relevant today because this covers everything from my current situation selling my softball bat (might regret later) to helping/sponsoring others.

    setting (and maintaining) healthy boundaries in recovery is a tricky process. We teach people how to treat us.

  8. Sluggo

    Sluggo Well-Known Member

    The Conceit of Self

    The conceit of self is said to be the last of the great obstacles to full awakening. Conceit is an ingenious creature, at times masquerading as humility, empathy, or virtue. Conceit manifests in the feelings of being better than, worse than, and equal to another. Within these three dimensions of conceit are held the whole tormented world of comparing, evaluating, and judging that afflicts our hearts. Jealousy, resentment, fear, and low self-esteem spring from this deeply embedded pattern.

    - Christina Feldman
  9. Sluggo

    Sluggo Well-Known Member

  10. Sluggo

    Sluggo Well-Known Member

    Inconvenience or Opportunity?
    Spiritual practitioners thrive in unpredictable conditions, testing and refining the inner qualities of heart and mind. Every situation becomes an opportunity to abandon judgment and opinions and to simply give complete attention to what is. Situations of inconvenience are terrific areas to discover, test, or develop your equanimity. How gracefully can you compromise in a negotiation? Does your mind remain balanced when you have to drive around the block three times to find a parking space? Are you at ease waiting for a flight that is six hours delayed? These inconveniences are opportunities to develop equanimity. Rather than shift the blame onto an institution, system, or person, one can develop the capacity to opt to rest within the experience of inconvenience.

    - Shaila Catherine
  11. Sluggo

    Sluggo Well-Known Member

  12. Allgood

    Allgood Well-Known Member

    Even while blooming, the flower is already in the compost,
    And the compost is already in the flower.
    Flower and compost are not two.
    Delusion and enlightenment inter-are.

  13. peacenik

    peacenik Administrator

    hmmmm that's deep
  14. Allgood

    Allgood Well-Known Member

    Thich Nhat Hanh speaks truth. His teachings are very deep, and at the same time so simple.
  15. guinevere64

    guinevere64 Well-Known Member

    Thich Nhat Hanh's teaching on "interbeing" is one of my favorites of all.

    The teaching of impermanence—the teaching of non-self—they are instruments for us to practice deep looking. And by looking, we discover the nature of interbeing. When we look at a flower, and if we look deeply enough, we see that a flower is made of non-flower elements, such as the sunshine. You see the sunshine in the flower. You know that if you send the sunshine back to the sun, the flower could not be. The sunshine is there, now, in the flower as a non-flower element. You see in the flower a cloud, floating. You don’t need to be a poet to see that, because no vegetation could grow without water—rain. And you’d have no rain if the cloud were not there. So you can see very well the cloud in the flower as a non-flower element. And if you continue, you discover that the whole cosmos is there in the flower.
  16. Sluggo

    Sluggo Well-Known Member

    Give yourself one second to just retreat, to be still. In the midst of an argument, in the midst of busyness, in the midst of turmoil, there is one second that everyone has to simply be still. To let it all fall away. Whatever is going on, whatever opinions you have, whatever fight may be happening, or even whatever agreement may be happening. Just take a moment. Retreat into yourself and be still. Tell the truth about what's here. It is always here.

  17. Sluggo

    Sluggo Well-Known Member

    Just being together in silence, nothing happening.

    In any instant in your life, wherever you are, whatever is going on, however you are evaluating yourself or others in your life, you can take a few minutes, and just have nothing happening, nothing going on.

    In that instant you taste the nectar of yourself. You're not getting better, you're not fixing problems. In that instant you are released from getting better, released from your problems and your problemlessness. Just the nectar of yourself.

    This is the radical teaching of my teacher and his teacher, that immediately, at any point, at any time, you can stop and recognize that everything that you want is already here. It's already available. It's yours for free. It is who you are.

  18. Trigger

    Trigger Well-Known Member

    ^ interesting. as an addict it's hard for me to deal with "nothing happening."

    thought of you last night, sluggo. i have the a bad case of the flu, but i still forced myself to go to meditation class last night. was really dizzy and i kept teetering over on the cushion, lol.

    the talk was about "feeling tones." we are taught that everything that arises in meditation falls into one of three categories:

    1-- pleasant feeling

    2-- unpleasant feeling

    3-- neutral feeling

    the difficult part of this to grasp is that these aren't emotional responses... they just are. one then chooses how to respond to that feeling tone... if there is an emotional response at all.

    the teacher said that he learned through counseling drug addicts, that the hardest tone for them (us) to deal with is the neutral tone. we can't process boredom in a healthy way.

    this is absolutely true in my life. all of my recent slip ups involve boredom in some way. i can deal with intense negative stuff, heck, it's often inspiring in some way. but nothingness... what does one do with that?
  19. Sluggo

    Sluggo Well-Known Member

    sometimes the most spiritual answer I can give is 'I don't know'....

    The State of Not-Knowing

    The state of not-knowing is a riveting place to be. And we don’t have to climb rocks to experience it. We encounter not-knowing when, for instance, we meet someone new, or when life offers up a surprise. These experiences remind us that change and unpredictability are the pulse of our very existence. No one really knows what will happen from one moment to the next: who will we be, what will we face, and how will we respond to what we encounter? We don’t know, but there’s a good chance we will encounter some rough, unwanted experiences, some surprises beyond our imaginings, and some expected things, too. And we can decide to stay present for all of it.

    Elizabeth Mattis-Namgyel
  20. gettingbetter

    gettingbetter Well-Known Member


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