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Sailormom's Son has lost his battle

Discussion in 'Family and Friends' started by sailormom, Feb 23, 2014.

  1. sailormom

    sailormom Well-Known Member

    Please keep going in a positive direction. My son lost his battle with his addiction, we found him in his apartment this morning. He passed sometime yesterday. Waiting on the corner to release his body to us for burial.
    I will keep coming here to check up on you.
  2. donaldstrike

    donaldstrike Well-Known Member

    Re: guess what happened

    oh no. i'm so sorry to hear that sailormom. to be honest i'm kind of shocked and lost with words.
    all i can say atm is that we (addicts) all know about the dangers which come with opiates at some time.
    still we do continue ... regardless ... whatsoever ...
    never ever feel guilty of what happened because addiction is a personal egoistic choice/trip with lots of casualties anyway
    i can't imagine losing my child - it's not how it's meant to be.
    my deepest condolences ... please take care of you
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  3. spring

    spring Administrator

    I found the above 2 posts in DS's thread. I copied them and moved into a new thread where everyone will see it and lend support and encouragement.

    Sailormom, I am SO SORRY to hear about the loss of your son. I was so hoping that we could get him to come to this site where we could possibly help him see that life is not hopeless...Please let me (us) know if there's anything we can do for you and your family.
  4. trust4me

    trust4me Well-Known Member


    I am so very sorry for your loss.

  5. krish

    krish Well-Known Member


    I am so so so sorry for you loss. I hope you got my PM. I was driving home just now, thinking about how I could express my sympathies, I pulled right out in front of car.. and then I thought, if I did this thinking about it, how are you holding up? I hope you know you can contact day or night to talk or for me to listen. I hope you find peace knowing he is at peace now. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, not just now while you are in the middle of it, but all the time.. I hate this disease! HUGS
  6. PrincessMa

    PrincessMa Well-Known Member

    I am so very sorry.
  7. bolt

    bolt Well-Known Member

    My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. I am sorry for your loss.
  8. Fox face

    Fox face Moderator

    I'm thinking of you. I also sent you a pm last night... My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
  9. sailormom

    sailormom Well-Known Member

    Thank you all for the thoughts and prayers. I did get the messages but haven't had a chance to sit down, and DS I hope you win your battle with the Demon, I am gonna keep tabs on you.

    I am sitting here dreading leaving this house to face the reality of life without my baby boy and seeing him marrying and have children. He has left his brother,father and I broken hearted.
    Today and tomorrow are gonna be the worst days of my life.
  10. Bonita

    Bonita Well-Known Member

    So very sorry for your loss. I just can not wrap my head around what a mom has to go through.

    I get so angry how behind the USA is in treating addicts. How many more will lose life before the government is wiling to do whatever it takes?

    I do have some hope..as I write this, California has begun testing with mc 18 which is the active alkaloid in ibogaine they believe to be responsible for deleting the wd syndrome. I think they are messing with an already effective plant/medicine but I'll take it. I actually never thought I'd see this in my life time. The idea of mc18 is so the "dreamstate" is removed. It's a slow process with FDA but it's going to be hard to ignore the possitive results. Who knows...maybe ten yrs from now addicts can be supervised by Mds right here in our country while being treated with iboga. This is a huge step.

    I hope you keep posting....my prayers are with you.
  11. krish

    krish Well-Known Member

    Just thinking about you and I know the next few days are going to be so hard..be sure to take care of yourself.. stress is a horrible thing too
  12. donaldstrike

    donaldstrike Well-Known Member

    hi sailormom
    it may sound pathetic but i'm with you. i lost four good friends to this disease so i can somehow feel your pain and relate to the feeling of a seemingly senseless and avoidable tragedy.
    it's very hard for a parent looking at their child not enjoying life at its best - looking for something - joy ... that's what it's all about.
    your story tells me once more that we don't only hurt ourself but our whole environment. leaving all of them behind ... to try in vain - powerless and clueless
    ultimately ... we throw away our lifes for an illusion ... piece by piece - step by step
    i just wish i could give you the same help you gave me. but it's far beyond my possibilities. in the end i'm sure he's on a better place now.
    my thoughts and prayers are with you and your beloved family. take care of each other.
    thank you
    Last edited: Feb 26, 2014
  13. glynntoo

    glynntoo Well-Known Member

    So, so sorry for the loss of your dear son. My thoughts are with you, too.....addiction is so brutal - for everyone. God bless.
  14. StuckonSubs

    StuckonSubs Well-Known Member

    My condolences to you and your family. I feel so terrible for all of you. It is so sad what this disease of addiction does to the addicts and all their family members. I know how helpless it can feel watching someone lost to addiction... As an addict I can say that we all know what a fine line we are playing on, yet it just does not seem to even phase us. I almost died a # of times but it never even slowed me down at the time. It did not matter how much my family begged me to stop or how much help they tried to force on me. It is hard to explain why exactly, but I did not stop doing H until I was ready. Until I was ready, nothing or no one could have helped me.
    You all will be in my thoughts & prayers. Again my deepest condolences.
  15. Fox face

    Fox face Moderator

    Continuing to lift you and your family up in prayers.
  16. sam bailey

    sam bailey Well-Known Member

    Hello Sailormom,

    Oh, the heartache of your loss. I am so sorry. For you. For the other people who loved him. For him. The sadness is too huge.

    My son is struggling with addiction. Though I have also suffered my own addiction, I have never known such terrible heartpain as watching my boy struggle. I know he is suffering, but I don't know how to ease it. Like you, I have tried to help him, to ease his pain, in ways both soft and hard. So many ways I have tried, as has his mother. Still he suffers.

    Sailormom, I am so sorry to read such terrible news.

    My Best,

  17. loralee

    loralee Well-Known Member

    I am so sorry for your loss. My worst fear. Everyone on this site knows that we could be you one day. Therefore, we have faced this possibility. We are completely with you in spirit right now. I will say a prayer for you and your beautiful boy. May God bless you and comfort you.

  18. sailormom

    sailormom Well-Known Member

    Thank you everyone for your love and support. We are still dealing with the after effects - such as he had no will, I should have had him write out one after the first time he o.d. but didn't... No matter how little one owns everyone needs one especially if doing these type drugs. He has life insurance through work but it won't pay because he died from non prescribed drugs.
    Well hopefully we can get everything taken care of in a timely manner.
  19. krish

    krish Well-Known Member

    Sailormom.. I have thought about you so often, wanted to send you a msg, but didn't want to bug you during this time. How are you holding up? How is your husband and other son? Thanks for the information, I never thought of any of that.. I think I will have both kids do some kind of will then, I see the importance. Please know we are here for you HUGS
  20. donaldstrike

    donaldstrike Well-Known Member

    as you know ... i'm very sad and yet very thankful that i met you ... how are you?

    in adoring gratitude

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