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Thansgiving & Angels

Discussion in 'Spirituality' started by jdude, Nov 22, 2007.

  1. jdude

    jdude Well-Known Member

    Some of you know I lost a 15yr daughter to a drunk driver. It was father's day weekend....summer. Missy donated her organs and tissue. And as our family history goes, she was cremated.

    During the memorial service ,with tears in his eyes, the pastor spoke of being called to the hospital.He spoke about the last rites and Psalm 23. But then he talked about leaving the hospital.
    He had come down the elevator walking thru a waiting area. He saw a group of folks obviously in a very joyful mood. He remarked how they had a 'special glow' about them. After some brief small talk, he found out the family's mother was being prepped for a life saving organ transplant....Missy's.
    Later on we found out 2 members of the congregation were attending nurses. They said the operation and organ was so good, the doc saved the video for training.

    Being a single father, I talked with my sons about the ashes.We decided we follow the family's tradition and spread them out at a favorite place of their sister's. We knew she loved the water and soccer. I even got permission to spread them out on a soccer field.

    But then we decided on a recreational area we all loved. The first time we went with Melissa ,she called it God's country.Water falls,streams,hills,woods, it had it all. About a 2 hr drive. But the boys did'nt want to take part.

    The plan was the boys would go visit family out of state for Thanksgiving....and I would spread the ashes. After getting them on the plane I drove to the park.

    My girl friend's 6yr old daughter had given me a small crystal angel to hang on my rear view mirror. One of my biggest pet peeves.....something hanging from the mirror. But she said I had to have it because it made her think of Missy. I could'nt refuse. I was happy to realize even being glass and gold leaf...it did'nt reflect and distract. When driving alone I talked to the angel as if it were Missy.

    I got to the park. Being Thanksgiving weekend and the off season it was pretty empty. It was cold,dark,raining, very miserable. So lousy the ranger at the gate wasn't even charging the admission. But it wasn't as bad ,compared to how I was feeling.
    I had lost my faith. How could God allow this to happen? I even tried to focus on all the families the donations had helped. Nothing helped...just spread the ashes and get out of there.

    I wanted to spread them out over the waterfall. That meant I had to drive up the hill. A wilderness camping area. Trying to be indiscreet, I walked back down thru heavy woods to get to the top of the waterfall. Having just had another back surgery..it wasn't easy. I thought how I must be in an area nobody had been B4.

    I watched the ashes mix in the river and head towards the falls. Using the time to rest B4 attempting to get back up to the parking area. Still my strongest thought was how can there be a God that would allow this?

    Coming back up, there was some graffiti on a large rock. In the middle of it was a large heart with the words " I love Melissa forever". Dumbfounded, I spent alot of time just resting there and staring at it. Finally got to the truck and started heading down the mountain. When I got to the main area there were lights and large lit up angels everywhere! Angels in every size and color. Some even in motion. The park was setting up for the annual 'festival of lights'. After spending a little time amazed at what happened I drove thru the park, down the hill, to the stop sign.

    For the first time in months the 'angel' on the mirror had reflected. From the lights of the park? It blinded me enough that I had to hit the clutch and re-adjust it B4 going thru the stop sign. As I re-adjusted it I held it and said" OK Missy.....I got your message".

    Just then, 2 kids had come down the hill on bikes, from the right side, too fast to even try to stop at the intersection. Had I not hesitated for an extra couple of seconds......only God knows what would have happened.

    So today at Thanksgiving there are not only some families thankful for a family member's new life . But a dad very Thankful for Angels and the messages they send us.
    Last edited: Nov 24, 2010
  2. OnMyWay

    OnMyWay Well-Known Member

    That's beautiful, Jay. I'm so sorry for your loss but what a sign you experienced. Thank you for sharing that with us.
  3. CelticPride

    CelticPride Well-Known Member

    That was amazing and I could not help but praise God for giving you this special moment that no one can take from you. I am sorry beyond words for your loss. But as you know she is always with you and one day you will be reunited. God Bless you and bring you peace. Thank you for sharing, it not only built your faith but mine as well.

    I always know...
    God won't give me more than I can handle
    There are times I just wish He didn't trust me quite so much. [^]
  4. imported_n/a

    imported_n/a Guest

    Dear jdude ~

    I too wanted to send you my deepest sympathies in your time of such devastating loss. I have long admired your posts here, always of so much help to newbies and others (even us 'oldies') and you're always just so nice and kind to folks, so giving.

    Reading your family's story here has shown me more of your background and how this must run in your family genes - your kind hearts and generous giving spirits.

    You are a blessing to this site J. Always remember that - and thank you for sharing such a beautiful story of hope - although it may not have been intended to share hope, it did for me. I am always watching for God's signs to me. I am also always trying to follow the subtle hints! I'm not very good at it, but I try and that's all we can do.

    Again, thank you for sharing - I will be praying that you and your family are able to share a blessed Thanksgiving together today.

    Much love and respect,

    The will of God will never take you to where the Grace of God won't protect you.
  5. Pamela7030

    Pamela7030 Well-Known Member


    I am so sorry for your loss. What a beautiful story. Today at my meeting, the topic was fear and faith. With almost 17 months clean, I am just begining to get a little faith. Your story was so beautiful and very inspirational. Sometimes, I remember to look around me for the little clues that God is giving me. Atleast now, I can see more clearly. You are a great asset to this site. You are kind and loving and it shows in your posts. May God watch over you and your boys. You are in my prayers.


    Oh God of second chances, here I come again.......
  6. jdude

    jdude Well-Known Member

    I was just a passenger in the story.But if we lose our faith ...what's left? An empty vessel.
    During that time I was teaching the 1st and 2nd grade Sunday school. Actually it was more like they were teaching me. We never could stay on plan.
    We were covering Genesis, and got to the Sabbath...the day God rested. One little boy pops up and said" You mean I get up early, take a bath, get all dressed up and God's home resting"?

    No son God doesn't rest or sleep as we know it. And sometimes He sends Angels to remind us.

    Godspeed all.
  7. toto

    toto Well-Known Member

    Jay, I did not know about the loss of your daughter by drunk driver. Still having sons and being a single Dad. All I call say is, my heart feels your pain and I feel the joy of your story a of spreading her ashes in the water. With the graffitti, on the stone "I love Melissa forever", the angels lited for the Festival of Lights, the little girl giving you the glass angel for your car mirror. That story today will increase my faith in my God. I'm a believer but this story came at the the right time for me.
    "God won't give me more than I can handle. Amen". xoxox tasha
    God Bless

    Kick until it Sticks
  8. guinevere64

    guinevere64 Well-Known Member

    Oh man, Jay.

    I cry at a lot of things these days; I spent the afternoon crying at "The Secret Life of Bees" which my friend and I watched for our belated bd celebration, but I'm really weeping right now. You got such a big heart. And spirit.

    Much love this Thanksgiving, Jay. --G
  9. Friend2U

    Friend2U Well-Known Member

    You are an amazing wonderful man! Your life story brings tears to my eyes..but also strength to my heart.
    Thank You!
  10. darkrosaleen

    darkrosaleen Well-Known Member

    I believe, when people are given trials like that and use those trials to help others, that they are touched by God. Jay, you have been . To share pain and sorrow like that with the thoughts that it could help someone who is stumbling in the dark means that you are not an ordinary man, but a huge heart brimming over. Thanks for the inspiration.
  11. Megzy

    Megzy Well-Known Member

    Hi Jay,

    Thanks for sharing that story, it's just what I needed to hear today. Your a great example of never loosing hope or faith. Thanks!!!!

    Happy Thanksgiving!:)
  12. Parachute

    Parachute Well-Known Member

    Happy Thanksgiving Jay. Thank you for being so thoughtful and being a wonderful example of all that is good in this life.

    Blessings to you and yours today.
  13. spring

    spring Administrator

    You wrote this over 3 years ago and today is the first time I have seen it. Sometimes I can't see the forest for the trees...I get so focused on taking care of the board that I forget about the very essence of it all...the people, the pain, the healing.

    Your post is inspirational and touched me deeply. Thanks, I needed this today. God Bless you Jay.
  14. Restored

    Restored Member

    Jay, I love any statements about a divine experience. Please just remember that if there is a breath left in your body, there is always something God wants you to do. I'm not even going to try to begin to say I "understand what you're going through" as those words are tossed about falsely as much as "I love you" these days. Just don't miss the big
    point that God is now calling you to a higher place of faith and servance". And I can promise from experience, he has plans, not to harm you, but to prosper you in this life and the next. I will agree that sometimes he can be seemingly very harsh, but in the end, whan we stand before this all-powerful God who created all we see and so much more we don't, and we are judged for our eternal standing, wouln't we accuse him of not loving us if he did not use every possible measure to draw us to the best thing for us, which is him?It truly is going to be that desparate when we see who he is. All told out of love, dude.

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