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The chain reaction of ones addiction...and the war story down side game..........

Discussion in 'General' started by PhillyPunk, Dec 20, 2011.

  1. PhillyPunk

    PhillyPunk New Member

    I will be honest on the fact I found this web forum after I googled a detox question from dope. In the process of reading some post andcomments from recent and past post,I just had to shake my head on why?????????? My question on why comes down to the fact that addiction is not a game of how one has done more,I have done more then you ever have or will, and etc,etc. I always noticed this from times when I went to meetings, (witch I refrain from going to because of the whole GOD aspect, even though I respect the program and have seen it work for many.buttttttttttt) someone always has to make themself look like the bigger,badder drug addict,and it sad to see when someone is looking for help,starts off someone honest, then reads from another that they have done 10-50 times the amount, then the person who asked for help changes there story, then it comes down to then getting helping on the detox from people who all in this one huge whirlwind of who the bigger addict,who had the worse withdrawl, etc,etc. trust me, I could copy and paste the many contradictions I seen from many, but my point being is this, I respect those who wish those the best they can and offer help on what they have info on , but I find it harmful to those who think that this addiction is a contest and then try to pawn off advice they have no experience on, and cause this snowball effect that destroying and preventing people from recovery. Some are educated on this addiction from real experience and have learned for the best or the worse but if anyone who is reading this has took the time to offer someone advice to make yourself look like you have done more then them(while you may or may have not,not the point) your not helping them. I just hope that this topic post can really tackle the problem of the issue of fake war stories when it comes to help and recovery,because there some of us who can see threw your fake bulll*** and there many who looking for some serious help and advice and not trying to run a dam marathon.
     
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  2. peacenik

    peacenik Administrator

    Hi Philly

    You're right of course. Some people do try to play the one-up game. It's common enough that they have a name for it "terminal cool" meaning, I'm so cool, I'll probably die if I stay this "cool".

    The thing is Philly, everyone brings their own messed up self to this place. We've all got our defense mechanisms and denial, it's part of survival for an addict.

    And a big part of recovery is recognizing that, and putting aside all of our stuff to the best of our ability.

    What I did, was I tried to worry only about how I was going to stay clean that day. Myself, I had so many problems it was not that hard to ignore the war stories and bragging. They say to "stick with the winners" - I tried to hang with people who had some clean time and who were working on getting their life back together. That's what impressed me. War stories? Not much :)

    Dave
     
  3. AumuA

    AumuA Well-Known Member

    I agree with you too, and we say it frequently in NA "We are not interested in what or how much you used or who your connections were, what you have done in the past, how much or how little you have, but only in what you want to do about your problem and how we can help."

    But in all honesty, I don't really see that kind of one-up-man-ship going on here too much. What I do see sometimes is people hoping to dispel fear or make someone feel better about detoxing by pointing out that they used x amount and they got through it. The point is encouragement, not bragging.

    Of course people do get into all kinds of self serving behaviors sometimes, my self included. But that's just humanity, we're all in some kind of a process here, as Dave was saying.
     

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